When I’m 88…

Have you seen the movie Big Fish?  Brilliant flick.  A must-see, if ever there was one.

Anywho, inspired by this movie, I love the idea of “knowing” when you are going to die, although I DO NOT actually want to KNOW that information.

Allow me to elaborate.

I am one of those people who is mindful of the impending event of death to an excruciating degree.  Whenever I hear that wise advice, “Don’t forget, we are all mortal, enjoy every day as if it were your last… blah blah blah” I think to myself, “Welcome to my life.”

So on the positive side, death is not going to catch me without having appreciated every second of every day.

On the negative side, I think there is a damn good reason that most people live blissfully unappreciative lives, and that is because it makes you INSANE to think about death all the time.

Let’s put it this way: the joy I felt surrounding the birth of each of my children was painfully tempered by the realization that… 

  1. I was going to be afraid every day not only of my own death but of my children’s death, and…
  2. In giving them birth I was simultaneously giving them their eventual death, as well as all the suffering they might experience in between those two events.

So I was able to appreciate the father character in Big Fish, after he’d seen his own death in the witch’s eye, as he went through his adventures, starting to feel afraid and then remembering, “Wait!  This isn’t how I go!”

I have decided that I “know” I am going to die in my sleep when I’m 88.  (Anyone who’s suffered through enough of my blog knows that I am partial to the number 8.)

Now, whether this is what really happens or not, who cares.  The point is, I won’t face every single, day-to-day perilous situation, like, say, driving down the road in the car, with so much fear.  I can look the oncoming semis confidently in the headlights and say to myself, “Don’t panic!  This isn’t how I go!”  I am absolutely exhausted of being afraid all the time.

(There’s no chance that I will actually put myself in a dangerous situation with a false sense of immortality… you can’t erase 38 years of paranoia THAT easily.)

But if I could only convince myself to play along, to believe against all reason that everything is okay… I might at least add a couple of years on to my life with lower stress levels.  It’s worth a shot, anyway.


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7 responses to “When I’m 88…

  1. Joy

    I am so gosh darned obsessive about some things like my kids being safe and everyone else dying that I don’t really ever think of it being myself. Other that the people who would miss me, I’m not really afraid to die. I’ll be able to see my grandma again and that’s such a nice thought for me to have.

    You and your 8’s!!!!!

  2. Goodness, that does sound exhausting!
    I look at it differently, I guess. I figure where I’m going is better than where I am, so why worry? My Aunt is in the final stages of leukemia. I feel sad for her and her family (she has a young son in addition to grown children) but I know she’s saved, so I know she’ll be ok. That’s comforting to me.

  3. Totally unrelated–the header you have up is disturbing to me, and I have no idea why. Something about the tiny inlaid stones resembling alligator skin, I think. It always gives me a start when your blog loads. Weird, I know. 🙂

  4. Thanks for your comments, my dears…

    Now let’s try us a header of monkey toes…

  5. If you add a few years to your life will you still die at 88 in your sleep? Maybe you “know” you’re going to die at 88 because you’re scared all the time, if you stop being scared that could drastically change your time here on Earth (both in terms of living and dying). I know the positive is that you’ll live more and think less, but it makes me wonder if that feeling of you dying at 88 will change? Or possibly we’re fate-driven anyway and fate sees you’re going to change and has taken that into account and you’ll still die at 88. Just a thought. 🙂

  6. Flygirld, have you been flying too long at low-oxygen heights? Ya lost me. 😀

    (Maybe I WAS going to die at like 82 until I decided I was going to die at 88 and then lowered my stress level AND got the old self-fulfilling prophecy thing to kick in, plus a wink and a nod and a nudge in the ribs… er somethin’…!)

  7. stacybuckeye

    I also spend time trying to enjoy every moment for what it is, but the flip side is that also makes me somewhat fearful of losing it, the moment.
    I have a thing for 5’s. Maybe I can decide to die at a happy and relatively healthy 105?

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